What If You Had to Manage It All Tomorrow
“The best time to plant a tree was thirty years ago and the second best time is now.”
When a partner who has traditionally managed the household finances becomes disabled, the transition of financial responsibilities often presents significant (and in many cases, immediate) challenges:
Financial Struggles: Navigating bills, investments, and budgeting can be overwhelming without preparation.
Susceptibility to Scams: Lack of financial literacy can make individuals more vulnerable to fraud and financial exploitation.
Missed Wealth-Building Opportunities: Inexperience may lead to conservative financial decisions, potentially hindering long-term financial growth.
Additionally, older women often face financial insecurity due to factors like lower lifetime earnings and higher medical expenses. This financial strain can be exacerbated when taking on new financial responsibilities unexpectedly.
Financial planning and education are two incredibly powerful levers that can be used to mitigate these risks, empowering you to make informed decisions, and ensuring financial stability and peace of mind.
Regardless of your situation, it’s never too late to start taking an active role in your financial life.
If you have found yourself in a situation similar to the one above, or if you are ready to begin taking steps to help protect yourself from being financially vulnerable in a situation like this, here are a few steps to help you move forward:
Step One: Get a Clear Picture of Your Finances
Understanding your financial situation is the first step toward confidence. Start by gathering key information:
Account Details. List all bank accounts, retirement accounts, investment accounts, and assets. Include account numbers, institutions, and login information.
Income Sources. Identify all sources of income, such as Social Security, pensions, annuities, rental income, or dividends.
Monthly Expenses. Track household spending—fixed expenses (e.g., mortgage, utilities) and variable ones (e.g., groceries, entertainment).
Debt Obligations. List debts, such as mortgages, car loans, or credit card balances, along with repayment terms.
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Step Two: Understand the Big Picture
Once you’ve gathered the basics, take a deeper look at how your finances work:
How Are You Invested? Review investment accounts to understand asset allocation (stocks, bonds, cash). This helps ensure your money is aligned with your risk tolerance and goals.
What Are Your Goals? Discuss financial goals with your spouse: How much do you plan to spend in retirement? Are there plans for travel, gifting, or healthcare?
What Happens If...? Discuss contingencies like:
How will income change if one of you passes away?
Are there life insurance policies or other assets to replace lost income?
What’s the plan for long-term care costs?
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Step Three: Start Having Regular Money Conversations
If finances haven’t been a shared responsibility in your marriage, this can feel intimidating. Remember, it’s not about taking over—it’s about learning together.
Schedule Financial Check-Ins. Set a monthly or quarterly “money date” to review bills, investments, and goals.
Ask Questions. No question is too basic. Ask your spouse to explain financial terms or strategies you don’t understand.
Bring in a Professional. If you need clarity or feel overwhelmed, meet with a financial planner together. A neutral third party can help explain your financial picture in plain terms.
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Step Four: Take Small Steps Toward Financial Independence
Building financial confidence doesn’t happen overnight. Start small:
Take Ownership of One Task. Begin by managing a portion of the household finances, like paying bills or reviewing investment statements.
Educate Yourself. Explore books, webinars, or podcasts about personal finance. Knowledge is power. 📖 Find financial education resources.
Get Organized. Create a file (physical or digital) with all important financial documents.
Baby Steps
Schedule a “money date” with your significant other to go over your finances. Take time during that first date to make a master list of accounts, passwords, and beneficiaries.
During your money date, talk with your partner about meeting with a financial planner to review your goals and concerns with a trusted professional.
Reminder: If You’re Feeling Uncertain, You’re Not Alone
It’s natural to feel overwhelmed stepping into unfamiliar territory, but the best way to reduce fear is through knowledge.
💡 Your first step forward? Ask for one piece of financial information this week—whether it’s a login, account summary, or overview of monthly expenses. Small steps lead to big changes.
Let’s Build Your Confidence Together
Whether you’re ready to take a more active role in your finances or just beginning to think about it, I’m here to help.
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You’re Stronger Than You Know
Taking charge of your financial future doesn’t mean doing it all at once—or all alone. By taking small steps now, you can build confidence and peace of mind for whatever the future holds.
With Warmth & Strength,
~Jess
(P.S. Know someone in a similar situation? Share this newsletter with them. Financial confidence is a gift that keeps on giving.)
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